I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I've never been the girl with 50 friends and 5 boyfriends ( that's my sister) but I don't need 5 I just would like one, someone to share life with, to make me laugh, drive me up the wall, and generally just be with. I see what so many others have and I feel I would like that too. Sometimes it hard to keep holding on to the hope that something will happen and not take it personally, as I know the older I get it doesn't get any easier. I know it's the worse thing I can do, start of loss confidence in myself, but well it's easier said than done.
I don't mean to complain, I know there are many wonderful things about my life now and my freedom , but after a while if it's the freedoms seem appealing and like freedoms somehow. I know having a man in my life will bring complications and difficulties too , but by single has it's own forms of those, and I'm ready for a change.
I hope this post makes sense. I've been going over over in my head whether to write it not, but it wouldn't go away and i guess sometimes it's better out than in.
thanks for listening,
I hope you are having a wonderful friday xo
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I get where you are coming from Jess. I remember turning 30 and being single, with a child, and thinking I would never meet anyone. I can remember too that feeling of awkwardness with my couple friends and how hard it was sometimes. Meeting someone can happen anywhere, at any time. I met Mark at my Dad's 60th! And I almost didn't go as I wasn't feeling well. 12 years and four kids later...we're still together! So, I guess what I'm saying is I understand how you feel and it's fair enough. But there is also lots of time and you are a wonderful, individual, loving & interesting person who some lucky guy will fall head of heels in love with. He's out there...keep looking! xo
Oh Jess, I can hear the sadness in your head and I am sure this was hard to write for you. Things can change so quickly.
A good friend of mine, who I never thought would meet anyone as he is quite shy, very bright and a musician and he met a woman who is so perfect for him and now they are having a baby- all in a year.
I KNOW- because I know these things- that there is a Mr Teddybearswednesday out there with a love of all things vintage just waiting for you.
Jess, I agree with Beck. Don't let the number put pressure on you. It'll happen when you least expect it.
I only had one serious relationship before "the one" and I am glad that it ended & I am where I am now.
I was studying visual arts, changed my major to photography & that's when I met my soulmate.
things just happen, there isn't a formula, no right way it should happen.
You are such a wonderful person that I am sure your soul mate is out there somewhere.
maybe he'll be at the tram stop next week or in a years time.
enjoy your birthday lovely girl & good things will come.
♥ {HUGs}
im with the two above. dont give up hope jess. i too have a dear friend who had a similar time to the one cath described. your world can change so quickly and life really is unpredictable. i think its important to do new things to meet new people to keep it this way too - even just like doing a craft stall - you never know who might come by. lots of hugs from me jess. i thought 30 was hard too! you are a unique (as we all are) and beautiful person whom i feel very lucky to have met and call a friend. some guy is going to be feeling pretty lucky one day too. dont stop looking for him x
ok so now there are 3 above ; )
Ditto to what the others said and I've already told you my story hon. It really does happen when you least expect it. I know it's tough when you have lots of married/hooked up friends but my advice is to either get yourself a single flat mate or go and find some single girlfriends that you can hang out with. You'll find the Mr before you know it. Or should I say, he will find you. And then you'll be wondering why on earth you went looking for someone who perpetually leaves his smelly socks in the middle of the floor and thinks its a good idea to do mountain bike maintenance in the middle of the lounge. Oh sorry, that's my life. LOL. Hang in there hon. I went through exactly the same thing when I turned 30. You've got lots of time!
Hey Jess - you just never know when you might find 'the one'.
My little sister was over thirty when she met her hubby (and only met him because she tagged along with me and my ex to a restaurant one night).
My older sister was over 35 when she met her hubby and now they have a whole tribe of kiddies!
I still live in hope that I might meet someone else one day too.
I'd like to think that one day a man will stop by your stall and find the most perfectly formed little character there, looking up at him with just the right amount of wonk...he will begin a conversation and the rest will be history.....
Its the wonk that will win him over - he'll "get' it!
You know how I feel Miss Jess!
I think you are awesome and I KNOW that he is out there wondering where you are too. One day it'll happen and it'll be so right and so ace and make so much sense.
I hope you have a great and happy weekend. X
Jess, first, it was very brave of you to write this, and I applaud you and send you so much love. Being one of your friends with kids, all I can offer is the fact that when I was 30 I didn't have a boyfriend either, and felt, like you, kinda all washed up and without hope. Worse, I just kept settling for abusive boyfriends, as I feared being alone. Now I have no partner but beautiful kids and wonderful friends (like you). I hear you. It's hard to maintain hope and confidence, but there will most probably be someone for you, Jess. I consider myself your friend, and I just know that whomever ends up finding you will be a lucky man indeed. And all the others here are right: it tends to happen when you're not looking. Love you, beautiful Jess.
Turning 30 is awful. ...but what is even more awful is when it happened long ago!!!
I remember when I turned thirty everything in my life came up for review and reflection. It's a good thing - to assess what you want. There is a lurking awfulness about turning thirty ... but you know what? It turns out to be just another day.
The positive here is that you know what you want. You know what you seek. Keep your eyes open and you shall find ... or perhaps he will find you?
On another point, a close friend of mine who is much older, told me as I turned 30 that it would be wonderful because I'd be "riding my saturn return". I still haven't worked out what she meant - so if you figure it out please let me know!!!
sweet sweet Jess, such pure honesty in this post, and that's is what makes you stand out from other and being so special, so I am positive that you are not going to stay single for long. I know though where are you coming from and understand the need to "let it out" <3
I hope this birthday of yours will be a very happy one!!!
xo
Jess - what a heartfelt post, and yes, it is better out than in. Wanting to meet someone is a step in the right direction - I firmly believe that there is someone for everyone. I know it sounds daggy and dodgy, but a friend of mine met the love of his life via a dating website. It took a few dud dates, but after a few months his life was changed forever by a lovely girl. Fingers crossed for you. You are fab! Nic
30! You're so young! Forget about your age and enjoy life. Get out as much as you can and meet people. just be yourself and don't focus too much on finding someone. You'll meet Mr Jess when the time's right.
Well done for opening your heart and sharing your feelings. Hugs from France.
As usual, everyone has said it all before me. I absolutely 'get' all that you say. I can still remember only too keenly how that side of the fence feels with its freedom and its lonely and the independence and solo weekend brekkies. Hang in there chook. You are indeed but a Spring Chicken (I should know). There's a Mr out there with just the right sort of appreciation of quirk. You just have to wait for the stars to get about colliding. x
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